My friend told me this weekend that I am too meek and mild, and that is his main concern about me having joined the Army. He thinks I'll get chewed up, and spit out, as well as brainwashed. For the record I am by no means bashing my friend here, but I find the conversation we had interesting.
Let's do a character study.
Statements like his have been said to me in various situations throughout my life, and yet I rise to the occasion. I am David and I have a friend in the highest place. A lot of people know OF Him, but don't KNOW Him. And in as much as they don't know Him, or should I say, dismiss His very existence and involvement in human affairs, they therefore miss out on a major aspect of my being. In fact, a whole part of me goes unnoticed and untapped by many people, even friends because they don't know, nor understand Him. My point is, folks just see the physical reality of me, but don't know one iota about my spiritual being and the power therein. I'm not saying I can dodge bullets and I'm impervious to IED's (LOL). I'm just saying that He's been my number one advocate since before I was born. All my joys, my fears, my ups and my downs He has known and understood. And every time, I mean EVERY time there was a gargantuan, Goliath of an obstacle in my way--an obstacle that I viewed with my human limitations as insurmountable--He took me through it and I succeeded. I have had naysayers and "Debbie Downers" speak the worst tripe in the worst times of my life, and yet I rise. I'm not as naive as my disposition tends to convey and I make it common habit to play innocent, yet I know more than I let on. Additionally, I don't trust people with certain aspects of my character. More on this latter point later. In short, I practice being wise as a serpent and innocent as dove. I like to call it the Lion-Lamb persona--they're one in the same.
Next, I have found that if people shutup more than they talk, they will learn more about their surroundings. In fact, in a short span of time and quiet, one can learn people's strengths and weaknesses, who truly holds power or control in a given situation, and can better plan to fight or flight, both literally and figuratively speaking where applicable. Suffice it to say, I'm extremely quiet and I've been told A LOT by friends, family, peers, and coworkers that my quietness can seem unsettling to them, to sum up their statements. My stillness is often misinterpreted and I'm commonly asked, "Are you okay?" Frankly, this question has gotten annoying, as I am now serving customer number 1,295,398. And this "customer" will walk up to me and inevitably ask me, "Are you okay?" at which point, I roll my eyes and ask God to forgive the expletive that slipped from the lips of my mind's voice.
Ever heard the Bible verse that unctions that one shouldn't cast his pearls before swine? Well hear me out on this because it's important. Our minds are precious and this is true because they are amazingly capable of remembering everything, so don't fill it with junk. Having said that, I've spent years treasuring my innermost being, thoughts and feelings. I like refining myself to be a person of very high integrity--though I have monumental flaws...MON-U-MEN-TAL. But this takes me to my next point. I dislike this age of over-share to some extent. But by over-share I mean, for example, this strange obsession as of late where people share in the most disgusting, unabashed way, very personal and otherwise sacrosanct details of their lives. Furthermore, I find it difficult to understand how people can so callously talk about sex, how they did it, with whom they did it and how many times. Then these intimate details are shared with not only their unfaithful, loose-lipped friends, but the world as if it were a badge of honor. I am not that kind of person and I dislike it! Only God and maybe the government (LOL) knows the details of what happens in my bedroom behind closed doors. Not even my best friend knows. I'm so tight-lipped that my mother has to ask if I date at all. As an aside, I don't outwardly judge people like this with my words, but in my mind... that's a secret. ;)
In short, I'm like a room with a single locked door and no windows. If one wants to know what's inside, I'm not going to let you in. You have to knock, wait, and I'll consider you. And I don't make promises...never. THIS is why I'm often misinterpreted. But I don't see myself changing anytime soon. Deal! Remember this, what you see is only what I'm allowing one to think of me based on what I willingly reveal about myself. Anything else one may think or concoct about me is their own creation, and something I have no control over, nor do I care to manage.
Yes. I know the army won't be a walk in the park and I'll cope. Do I have a choice? Technically yes, but generally speaking, I don't. Besides I'm not looking for a way out, I'm trying to get into the army. I like what I've seen so far and I want more. I want to end this entry by saying that I detect an air of condescension in my friends alleged concern. I sense, "He doesn't know what he's getting himself into." In truth, statements like this actually have no baring on the wrong or right-ness of a choice that has been made. But for arguments sake and to close, I'll list my "flaws" that I think brought about his statement: "The army will chew you up and spit you out." "They are going to brainwash you."
I/am...
- Very idealistic
- See a lot of life in black and white
- Too quiet
- Cautious
- Overly analytical
- Black
- Overly professional
- Conservative
- Extremist
- Rigidly logical, dare I say Vulcan-esque (LOL!!)
- Selfish
- Highly moral
- Fickle
- Extremely spontaneous
- Random
- Short-tempered
- Argumentative
- Cantankerous
- Stubborn
I will revisit this matter after basic training, and then after a few years in the army. We'll see what still stands and what remains.